Women todays need to be smart and cautious when it comes to dealing with first encounters and men they don't know -but if you are a genuine-hearted person, then that should not prevent you from asking out an interesting stranger.
Here are creative ways of asking her out.
Walk Over and Ask
The least complex but usually hardest way to ask out a stranger is walking over and asking straight away. The very simplicity of walking over and blurting out a simple, direct question makes the whole strategy challenging. The execution is so simple that the success or failure of the move lies entirely on the individual executing it.
So what's the proven technique?
Be natural. Amongst other things, women are very good at recognising a guy who's putting on an act. So don't put on a fake show, flow with it. Focus into the moment and find what the situation requires. Bring in the balance that could very possibly come to fomr the basis of your relationship with this person should the both of you find an interst in one another.
Just remember, that not all encounters are meant to be. Don't force something that isn't real. With the right person you will find that it will be effortless to keep conversation and feel comfortable around one another.
If you do feel that is not enough then try some of the following pointers.
Start with a Complement
Don't be cliche here!! I can't emphasise enough how terrible and thouhgtless you may sound - even if you don't intend. Try to complement her actions, a quirk or mannersim, even things that she uses instead of her looks.
Be Familiar to the Stranger
Sometimes, asking out strangers are easy if they are not a total stranger to you. You may have seen her weekly at the fruits section of the grocery or she may have caught your eye as she was loading her laundry. You may not know her name, but you certainly can know a lot about her, just by observing her.
If you find a potential date with any of the strangers that you regularly see as you head to the office, then create interest by observing her more closely. Try to know her schedule or where you see her often. Wait for the right moment to happen, so you have a higher chance of getting positive results.
When you see her every morning at your favorite café, don’t ask her out while she’s picking up an espresso-to-go at 7:30 am. Wait till Friday, when she usually spends the afternoon with her notebook and a tall latte. That should be a good opportunity to make conversation. She’s in a relaxed state, not in a hurry, and maybe open for new acquaintances.
Bookstores, supermarkets, Laundromats are a good place to ask out a stranger. Why? Because you have the time. But before doing so, make sure that you’ve made your background check. Maybe she appears indecisive trying to select a product off the shelf? Help her out with a comment such as "Tried it and it's great". At a book stores, ask about the book but keep the conversation light so she will not be put off by your presence. Smile genuinely, from the heart and she will see your pure intentions and may become interested to go out.
A Common Acquaintance
In this small country, people are connected to each other, in one way or another. The key is to find your connection to the stranger that you are interested in going out with.
Spend a week or two observing your stranger. If you are lucky enough to find a common friend, then that is a sure ticket to ask her out. Arrange for a chance meeting, or a group date to have an opportunity to have a conversation with her. Soon as you are able to get past the “hi” and, “hello,” then you should be able to take it through spending some time together alone.
There’s much excitement and adventure in asking out strangers. Overcoming the challenge is quite fulfilling. However, make sure that your intentions are genuine and good, for only the pure at heart deserve to go out with the interesting stranger.
Dean - Webmaster @ Fukked.com
Also the Director, writer, editor and arts director for Date Magazine Australia for 2002-2005 street press magazine
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