*1. Treating a Relationship as a Transaction
You cannot be calculative when it comes to a fuck buddy. Just like any relationship, it is give and take. Do not just take without giving back. Theoretically speaking, there’s a hidden universal law guiding human relations, which is, “If you stop giving, you stop getting.” And if that’s the way the law is, them we must not stop giving or else the relationship will die. So if you are calculative, you will count to a point where you will say, “Yep, that’s enough. I’ve given my fair share. Now it’s your turn.” But your fuck buddy partner may not feel it’s their turn yet. So don’t calculate. Keep giving generously and your fuck buddy partner will return your love when the time is right.
*2. Be Patient and Sensitive Towards Your Fuck Buddy
Even fuck buddy relationships are delicate because human emotions are delicate. Even with certain agreements between you both, you can bring the strongest fuck buddy relationship to its knees with a single quarrel. You don’t even need to do it in person; over the telephone will do. You can end a good fuck buddy relationship with words that hurt, no meeting needed. So if you treasure your fuck buddy relationship, never blow your top. Your fuck buddy deserves your best behaviour while keeping it sexually fulfilling. And the more honesty, passion and respect you invest in them, the more they will offer it back at you.
*3. Idealistic Demands
Some people are more idealistic than others. They have a vision in their minds of how they want their ideal fuck buddy to be – and they will not compromise. Usually in life, the fuck buddies we end up with do not meet our original criteria. Maybe he or she doesn’t have the perfect shape or maybe he or she are a little awkward at first. But try give it a second or even third go. Even fuck buddies need warming up to a relationship and the way the other person behaves. Your experiences will bring you together with all kinds of fuck buddies. Some much braver than others. With those experiences you will start editing your criteria of what you want in a fuck buddy, circling those qualities which are most fulfillinh, and mentally scratching out those which are not. So if a person has a list of rigid, uncompromising needs that they follow to the dot, they might just kick out the fuck buddy that was right for them.
Even if people do not fall into those points listed above, there are other problems such as the possibility of meeting someone more appealing (high chance). What should you do in such a case? Here’s a principle to guide you:
“A great fuck buddy relationship is something that can take you time to find, but also something you build and commit yourself to.”
There are thousands of potential fuck buddies in the world out there for you. Is the grass greener on the other side? So what do some people do? They hop over to the neighbour’s lawn! But then the lawn doesn’t seem so green anymore because they see the weeds of the person’s personality. But it looks like there’s a greener lawn next door, so they hop again! They do their partner hopping, dating and exchanging in search of the greenest lawn, but they’ll never find it because a beautiful relationship, like a beautiful garden, must be tended to and cared for. You can have ‘happily forever after’ with the fuck buddy you choose, but you must commit yourself to it. Without commitment, nothing lasts.
To sustain a fuck buddy, two people have to choose each other for simple reasons... compatibility. If either partner defaults or is unsure, the whole fuck buddy relationship falls apart. It doesn’t matter how much or little you put in, if they do not reciprocate it is over.
*An Uncommitted Fuck Buddy Partner*
Sometimes you might find that although you are ready to give more than you take, your fuck buddy refuses to allow you fulfillment of your pleasures. They may be only out there for themselves and out to fulfill their whims and fantasies. Many people believe that they can hold on and possibly turn that fuck buddy around. But this isn’t true. If your fuck buddy only wants to fulfill themselves, then it is time you found a new one. A You must realize that each person seeks their own happiness but compromises are met. The best you can do is call it offer maturely and allow them to follow their fantasies. Gracefully step aside and wish them well. Remember, fuck buddies are an agreement between two people to be there for each other not for love but as an outlet or release. The right fuck buddy will come along for you one day.
If you want to find an ideal fuck buddy, you first have to BE an ideal partner. Expect that your fuck buddy has another life they are committed to. Do not place demends on them which they are not willing to fulfill. Be mature about it. You are two adults who have come together to fulfill certain needs. Having said that, give your fuck buddy first-class treatment – be infinitely patient, respectful, caring, and giving. Don’t be calculative about giving. Give with all your heart and trust that your fuck buddy appreciates what you give.
Good luck and may you build the fuck buddy of your dreams.
Dean - Webmaster @ Fukked.com
Also the Director, writer, editor and arts director for Date Magazine Australia for 2002-2005 street press magazine
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